Read about Becky and find out what inspired her to start her business, Mother Like No Other.
How long have you lived in Norfolk?
I’ve lived in Norfolk for just over 4 years now. We moved here from Bristol after a year of travelling around Japan, New Zealand, and along the West coast of the states. I fell pregnant with Etta towards the end of our trip so we had to make a very quick decision about where we wanted to live when we returned. Finding jobs in Bristol was difficult and as Jack (the girls’ papa) grew up in Norwich, we thought we’d give it a try!
Tell us about what you do for a living…
Wowee, where do I start? I’m a bit of a ‘Jackie of all trades’! I work/have worked as a nanny part time, but have also organised children’s events, worked in marketing for small businesses, and for the last 18 months been running my own clothing company aimed at mums to help them feel more empowered about their parenting choices – which I absolutely love and find so rewarding! Working for myself and starting something from scratch has been the most incredible thing I could have ever done, along with having babies, obvs!
What gave you the inspiration for starting Mother Like No Other? First of all it was it was to acknowledge that every mother and every family not only have different parenting styles, but also different ways to support their families. Things have moved on so much since the 50s, (not that there’s anything wrong with doing things that way if it suits you), but it’s also worth celebrating that not only can we make things work around us and our families now. We’re also feeling more empowered to research and inform ourselves on what our options might be.
Another thing I feel very strongly about are unnecessary passing comments and glares. I received lots from people at the supermarket, or even from others at toddler groups, which used to leave me feeling so sad and frustrated, especially when I felt I was trying so hard. It was tough enough leaving the house but then to have a stranger giving unkind comments to Etta, (some examples: “Now you sit there and keep quiet”, “Oh, you are are a naughty little girl”) when she was around 18 months, felt really hurtful and really didn’t fit with my parenting style. I wanted to develop a product that would let that item do the talking for me AND you, so we can focus on caring for our children.
Family How many children do you have and how old are they?
I have two wonderful girls, Etta is 4 and Juniper is 2 in April.
What is your favourite ‘at home’ activity to do with your girls?
My absolute favourite thing is a good old Kitchen Disco! It’s the end of the week, no more nursery runs, work’s taken care of, and we can just let go and have a good old dance along to some of our favourite tracks. It’s usually the Moana soundtrack, but every now and then the girls let me play one of my pre-child dance-floor favourites!
Where would you recommend for a family-friendly place to visit in Norfolk?
We love the coast, anywhere along the Norfolk coast is amazing…seals in the winter and building sandcastles and dripping ice cream down our wrists in the summer! Perfect. What do you love about being a mum?
Oh my goodness, the unconditional friendship we have is just incredible! The bond that you have with your child/children really is like no other and I know it sounds cliche to say, but it really is very magical. I also love their positivity and acceptance of others…why can’t we all have a child’s mindset? We can learn so much from our kids!
What is the hardest thing about being a mum?
The hardest bit is stepping out of the situation and realising I’m not failing them and I am enough. Those days when you’re so sleep deprived and all you’ve managed to do is move yourself from your bed to the sofa as you’re so exhausted. I find I put so much pressure on my self to always be present, to always engage, but on days like that, you just can’t. Mama needs a break too. I find myself so riddled with guilt, which really isn’t necessary.
Business What is the most important business lesson you’ve learnt since you started your own business?
That it’s not easy. You have to work at it and Rome wasn’t built in a day. I definitely see peaks and troughs, and that’s ok. I also find that if you’re able to work more than one job, it takes a lot of pressure off the other. And believe me, it is possible! Anything is possible if you’re willing to give it a try.
Working from home has its challenges, what is your advice for other parent who work from home or want to?
We have this children’s relaxation CD that we play all the time in the car and there’s a phrase on their ‘relax and let go’…Working from home with little ones can be such a juggling act, particularly if you don’t have childcare and have to steal moments here and there to work on things. My advice would be to do exactly as the woman on the CD says: celebrate the bits you can get done and when it starts to feel stressful, STOP, then ‘relax and let go’! I haven’t always done that and the balance and frustration has built up, which isn’t great for anyone, so I now realise and accept that I can only do what I can.
Any other advice for parents who want to start their own business?
Just go for it! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain and you never know, it may just work for you and your family.
Mother Like No Other was founded by Becky in 2016 to help empower parents, and celebrate the individuality of each and every parenthood journey.
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